So, you've responded to the "wake-up call." You've been a detached,
disengaged mate, and your wife has said you must change or she's leaving
the marriage. You were so caught up in your own world; you honestly had
no idea the immense impact you had on your mate. Now, you recognize your behavior has damaged your marriage, and
you're hoping the damage is not irreparable. You're hoping you can still
save your marriage; that your efforts will be met with a positive
response by your mate. |
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The problem is, how do
you know where to start? What exactly do you have to do to save your
marriage? The task is daunting, with no clear guidelines. You weren't
clear about what you did to ruin your marriage, and now you have even
less of an idea about how to repair it.
It
would be easier if your wife would give you an Instruction Manual titled
"How to Repair Your Damaged Marriage," but of course, that isn't going
to happen. So, you're left to pick up the hints she offers, and attempt
to piece together her complaints into some kind of a plan. This feels
ineffective at best, hopeless at worst.
A recent email from a man illustrates this problem.
Dear Dr. David,
Last
week, my wife came up to me out of the blue and said she was leaving.
She said she had enough of me being an absent, neglectful husband. I
sure didn't see that coming. After asking what the problems were, I
still didn't see it coming. She went on a half-hour rant about my lack
of attention to her and our children. She complained about my being
addicted to television and playing with the Xbox, and only being
available when she yelled.
The bottom line is
this. She is ready to leave unless I completely change. Where do I
start? I have put away the Xbox, but that seems like a drop in the
bucket for what she wants. I'm afraid I'm going to lose her if I don't
come up with something fast. Help!
-- Xbox Addict
Source: CBN | David Hawkins
Dr.
Hawkins is the director of The Marriage Recovery Center for couples in
distress. Learn more by visiting Dr. Hawkins' website at
www.yourrelationshipdoctor.com
